Maintaining an intimate relationship is not always an easy thing to do.
Often times, couples in the San Jose area who come to see me do so because they are feeling frustrated and helpless. Their individual concerns clash, and their hurt turns to anger.
Building an extraordinary relationship takes a commitment to yourself and your partner, a willingness to be vulnerable, and a determination to have the relationship you hoped it would be when you met.
Couples counseling helps identify areas where constructive change may improve couples’ ability to function better in their relationship. Couples therapy is not about being “told how to fix” the relationship, but instead involves a process of learning how to find and implement new solutions which lead to a more satisfying relationship.
My goal as your therapist is to provide an environment where you can do your best work.
Often times couples come to therapy in hopes of finding out who’s right and who’s wrong. Couples therapy is not about finding fault but rather an opportunity to better understand, listen and contemplate each other’s perspectives on the marriage.
When the couple commits themselves to doing the work necessary to get back on track, it’s amazing what what can happen!
Couples therapy is not about finding fault but rather an opportunity to better understand each other.
There's no better time than now, but it can be really hard reaching out to a therapist for help. And what if you don't feel comfortable with me? I get that.
So how about we talk for a bit on the phone first to see if we're even a good fit? If that sounds like the reasonable first step, press the "Schedule Free Consultation" button below to schedule a FREE appointment. I look forward to meeting you.
My office is located in San Jose on Bascom Avenue and is convenient to clients from Los Gatos to Saratoga, Campbell and Santa Clara. Parking is easy and wheelchair access is available.
There are many ways you can benefit from therapy. You will find Tino Silva’s therapeutic approach is geared towards treating the “whole person”. What this means is that he will work with you and not just your symptoms. By coming to therapy, you will learn certain skills and strategies to not only address the issue you want to work on but also address your overall well being.
It’s also important to note that you don’t need a “psychological disorder” to attend therapy. Many clients come to therapy because they’re looking for personal or spiritual growth. It’s a way of taking time out of their very busy life to work with someone who is dedicated to helping them discover and become their “best self”.
During your first session Tino will meet with you to help you identify issues you want to work on in therapy and goals to be accomplished. Some client’s come to therapy ready to get to work. Other clients may need more time to decide if he is the right person to help them move forward. Either way, Tino’s goal is to meet you where you’re at. He believes that trust is earned by allowing a client to go at their own pace.
Friends are a great source of support, love and kindness. In fact, we might even consider some of our friends as family.
But why is it client’s with a great support network still feel the need to seek therapy?
First and most important, our sessions are completely private. You don’t have to worry about someone accidentally spilling the beans to family or friends.
Second, by seeing a therapist, you are working with someone who is trained to diagnose and/or point out patterns of behavior that might be detrimental to your overall well being.
Finally, most friends want to support you, not hurt you. Therefore, often times friends tell you what you want to hear, rather than what you need to hear. The power of therapy is discovering your own solutions that teach you to remember your path to enlightenment so you can find it again when you need it.
The relationship between therapist and client is protected by law and information cannot be disclosed without written consent. The only exceptions are if and when there is suspected child abuse/neglect or when the client threatens serious harm to self or others, in which case every effort is made to ensure the safety of those affected as required by law.
Treatment decisions are often decided by guidelines enforced by insurance reviewers who often do not have an understanding of your specific needs. Unfortunately, mental health care is often subject to coverage limits that are a fraction of the coverage provided for other illnesses. For example, if we determine a psychiatric evaluation or ongoing psychotherapy is the best treatment option, you’ll most likely need the approval of a disengaged third party who is detached from day-to-day psychological/psychiatric care.
Furthermore, in order for insurance to be utilized, the therapist is often required to provide a diagnosis to justify ongoing treatment which may become part of your permanent medical record. Additionally, managed care organizations and insurance companies can require detailed information about your psychiatric history as a condition of payment. Tino Silva fundamentally believes being mandated to provide private and confidential information to insurance companies violates the confidence and trust between the therapist and client.
Please let me know if there is anything else I can answer for you.
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Don’t Believe the Myths
Anyone Can Benefit From Therapy
Since building my practice, I’ve been intrigued by questions asked by both clients and friends surrounding both the process and results people can expect from therapy. I’ve learned from talking to countless clients how myths or false assumptions can interfere with getting the help one seeks. So, let’s talk about what therapy is, what therapy is not and when it’s time to work with a professional therapist.