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Marriage & Family Therapist
San Jose / Campbell Area

Living in a pressure cooker world is tough for everyone.

Many families in Silicon Valley go through significant conflict nowadays. And in a perfect world, family members would provide each other with support, unconditional love, acceptance and strength. These are the people we openly share our joy and sadness with.

However, all too often, families can become riddled with conflict, resentment, argument, disappointment, anger and guilt.

When we feel rejected by misunderstandings, criticism or lack of support, chaos can ensue. When this happens, family members protect themselves by building emotional walls around themselves or avoid family members all together to avoid being hurt by painful arguments.

While we all wish to have a happy family, the dynamics involved are complex. Our situation might appear to others to be happy while the reality we face is much more challenging. Often, we are unaware of how our personal struggles affect our families – and how the struggles of our families affect us.

Family therapy is different than other therapy approaches in that the entire family is treated as the “client”.

My goal in working with families is to solicit cooperation from every family member in order to understand the family dynamic, explore developmental changes, create boundaries, negotiate rules, and define family member roles.

Although this process can be tough at times, the result of a family’s hard work can often result in an amazing change!

These are my specialties…

  • Anger Management
  • Anxiety
  • Communication
  • Cultural Differences
  • Depression
  • Drugs/Alcohol Use
  • Divorced Parents
  • Emotional Regulation
  • Family Conflict
  • Forgiveness
  • Issues with Trust
  • Loss of Friends or Support
  • Loneliness
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Parenting
  • Past Relationships
  • Pre-Marriage Support
  • Previous Divorce
  • Religious Differences
  • Workplace Stress

Are you ready for family peace and more laughter in your home?

There's no better time than now to get a healthy family dynamic back, but it's sometimes hard to reach out for help. You might also be wondering if you and your family will feel comfortable with me? I get that. 

And so I propose we find out in a free, get-acquainted 15 minute phone consultation. If that sounds like the reasonable first step, press the "Schedule Free Consultation"  button below to schedule an appointment.

After our call, you can decide if I’m the right therapist for your family.

Are you ready for the first step?

It's easy and it's free.

Frequently Asked Questions

How can therapy help me?

There are many ways you can benefit from therapy. You will find Tino Silva’s therapeutic approach is geared towards treating the “whole person”. What this means is that he will work with you and not just your symptoms. By coming to therapy, you will learn certain skills and strategies to not only address the issue you want to work on but also address your overall well being.

It’s also important to note that you don’t need a “psychological disorder” to attend therapy. Many clients come to therapy because they’re looking for personal or spiritual growth. It’s a way of taking time out of their very busy life to work with someone who is dedicated to helping them discover and become their “best self”.

What can I expect on my first visit?

During your first session Tino will meet with you to help you identify issues you want to work on in therapy and goals to be accomplished. Some client’s come to therapy ready to get to work.  Other clients may need more time to decide if he is the right person to help them move forward.  Either way, Tino’s goal is to meet you where you’re at. He believes that trust is earned by allowing a client to go at their own pace. 

Please feel free to be yourself. You don’t need to prepare for your session other than completing the online registration forms he sent you.

I have so many friends I can ask for help, why should I consider therapy?

Friends are a great source of support, love and kindness. In fact, we might even consider some of our friends as family.

But why is it client’s with a great support network still feel the need to seek therapy?

First and most important, our sessions are completely private. You don’t have to worry about someone accidentally spilling the beans to family or friends.

Second, by seeing a therapist, you are working with someone who is trained to diagnose and/or point out patterns of behavior that might be detrimental to your overall well being.

Finally, most friends want to support you, not hurt you. Therefore, often times friends tell you what you want to hear, rather than what you need to hear. The power of therapy is discovering your own solutions that teach you to remember your path to enlightenment so you can find it again when you need it.

Can I be assured our sessions will remain confidential?

The relationship between therapist and client is protected by law and information cannot be disclosed without written consent. The only exceptions are if and when there is suspected child abuse/neglect or when the client threatens serious harm to self or others, in which case every effort is made to ensure the safety of those affected as required by law.

Why don't you take insurance?

Treatment decisions are often decided by guidelines enforced by insurance reviewers who often do not have an understanding of your specific needs. Unfortunately, mental health care is often subject to coverage limits that are a fraction of the coverage provided for other illnesses.  For example, if we determine a psychiatric evaluation or ongoing psychotherapy is the best treatment option, you’ll most likely need the approval of a disengaged third party who is detached from day-to-day psychological/psychiatric care.

Furthermore, in order for insurance to be utilized, the therapist is often required to provide a diagnosis to justify ongoing treatment which may become part of your permanent medical record. Additionally, managed care organizations and insurance companies can require detailed information about your psychiatric history as a condition of payment.  Tino Silva fundamentally believes being mandated to provide private and confidential information to insurance companies violates the confidence and trust between the therapist and client.

Please let me know if there is anything else I can answer for you.


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From the Blog…

Don’t Believe the Myths

Anyone Can Benefit From Therapy

Since building my practice, I’ve been intrigued by questions asked by both clients and friends surrounding both the process and results people can expect from therapy. I’ve learned from talking to countless clients how myths or false assumptions can interfere with getting the help one seeks.  So, let’s talk about what therapy is, what therapy is not and when it’s time to work with a professional therapist.

© Tino Silva, LMFT 2019
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